Congratulations! We asked you to be a bridesmaid! You have accepted the card from the hand of the best person with letters(or a text with a cori emo, you are happy, now what?
As a bridesmaid, will you just go to the altar on the day of, or will you become the couple’s personal assistant until the last bird seed is thrown away? (Spoiler: probably neither one nor the other!) This means that it is time to find out the duties of the bridesmaid and agree on expectations.
Simply put, the bridesmaid of the concert is to introduce herself. It’s about being there for your friend, sister, cousin, beloved bud, debate opponent, co-baker, book exchange partner or other cat enthusiasts. It is the support they need for what can be one of the most stressful, emotionally raw and anxiety-inducing experiences of their lives. What it looks like changes from couple to couple, from month to month and from relationship to relationship. This means we can’t give you an exact list of what bridesmaid functions will look like at every wedding. But what we can help you with is a framework to help you understand what it will be like to be a bridesmaid in this particular wedding.
Make sure that you and the couple are on the same page from day one. Trust us, you don’t want to have conversations about who should plan a surprise bachelorette party
BRIDESMAID FUNCTIONS
BE THERE SYMBOLICALLY
The only requirement for a bridesmaid that is unavoidable is to stand there with the couple as a sign of support and love. “There” depends on the couple of the time and place where they are getting married, of course. Maybe it will be a church, a clearing of redwoods, or uh a cliff. (And find out this information before choosing shoes for the night.)
BEING THERE bodily
Mohs are a popular choice for small aesthetic tasks, such as playing babitter Another super fun advantage is to go shopping with the other bridesmaids and help the bride choose the wedding dress/jumpsuit/etc. And it is always a good idea to provide fabrics to the couple for notes and readings.
Honestly, though, most waitresses of honor do a big job. A common feeling among people planning a wedding is the desire to have more than two hands. Oh, hi, my GOD! You will probably be the first person the couple will think of asking for help with these tasks and crafts before the wedding, for example when they have to assemble a hundred do-it-yourself wedding gifts or create a suite of handmade invitations. (The bridesmaid may also be in charge of publicizing things deemed inappropriate for invitations, such as where the couple is registered, or that there is no rule prohibiting children.)
And, on the wedding day, the bridesmaids are at the forefront for things like taking the cake, securing the checks and preparing the menus.
Traditionally, a bridesmaid also acts as a leading person to lead the rest of the wedding team in the planning of the pre-wedding party. Which brings us to …
BE THERE FINANCIALLY
The inclusion of the wedding party is a notoriously expensive gig. So make sure you’re on the same page with what’s expected financially-because what one person thinks is taken for granted, another thinks it’s the stuff of fairy tales. Eliminate these conversations in advance.
Word to the wise Ministry of health: What about gifts? We know, we know: you’ve been there for the couple all this time, for, like, a year of planning and eight hours of actual manual labor (kidding! let’s hope!). Do you really need to make a gift? Gifts are never necessary, but if you want us to guarantee that the couple will not notice/heal/be hurt, fairly or unfairly, that you have not received a gift from them, we cannot do that. So if you need to give gifts and you are short of money, try to be creative with your gifts to reduce costs. Can you offer something handmade or nostalgic for your gift? A wonderful card, a beautiful letter, perhaps, or a creative photo of the two of you from high school.
